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To include a comma in your tag, surround the tag with double quotes. Please enable cookies in your browser to get the full Trove experience. Skip to content Skip to search. Marano, Hara Estroff. Physical Description pages ; 25 cm. Published New York : Broadway, c Language English View all editions Prev Next edition 3 of 3. Author Marano, Hara Estroff. Edition 1st ed.
Copyright c Subjects Parenting -- United States. Child rearing -- United States. Parent and child -- United States.
Child rearing United States Parents Behaviour Overseas item Summary There is a mental health crisis on college campuses these days, with alarming numbers of students engaging in self-destructive behaviors like binge drinking and cutting or disconnecting through depression. This is the first book to connect the dots between overparenting and the social crisis of the young. Psychology expert Hara Marano reveals how parental overinvolvement hinders a child's development socially, emotionally, and neurologically.
A Nation of Wimps: The High Cost of Invasive Parenting [Hara Estroff Marano] on retouwingere.tk *FREE* shipping on qualifying offers. Wake up, America: We're. A nation of wimps is the first book to connect the dots between over-parenting and the social crisis of the young. Psychology expert Hara Marano reveals how.
Hothouse parenting has hit the mainstream--with disastrous effects. Parents are going to ludicrous lengths to take the lumps and bumps out of life for their children, but the net effect of parental hyperconcern and scrutiny is to make kids more fragile. Children become overreactive to stress because they were never free to discover what makes them happy in the first place.
When the real world isn't the discomfort-free zone kids are accustomed to, they become subject to anxiety disorders or worse. Contents Welcome to the hothouse Rocking the cradle of class Parenting to perfection We're all Jewish mothers now Cheating childhood Meet mom and dad, the new hall monitors From scrutiny to fragility Crisis on the campus Arrested development Born to be stressed Whose shark tank is it, anyway? Class dismissed We didn't get here by rocking the boat What parents can do for their kids.
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Protective parents have morphed into "death-grip" parents who hold on to their children so tightly that nothing is left to chance, raising them in "hothouses" where every aspect of life is under parental control. The normal course of child development gets short shrift, if it's not completely short-circuited.
What if parents have micromanaged their kids' lives because they've hitched their measurement of success to a single event whose value to life and paycheck they have frantically overestimated? You can't be a wimp to read it. I keep switching points of view and placing different people in the different scenarios. Meanwhile, back in the playgrounds of America, parents watch parents watching their children. That's really something very new. Whenever the slightest difficulty arises, "they're constantly referring to their parents for guidance," reports Kramer.
The results, writes Marano, are "teacup kids": "Without opportunities to experience [for] themselves, to develop and call on their own inner resources, to test their own limits, to develop confidence in themselves as problem-solvers, they are fragile and shatter easily. Researchers, educators, and authors before Marano have been saying in one way or another for a number of years that childhood is in trouble, particularly because of a cultural devaluing of imaginative play.
They have linked the loss of play to a demise in creativity and self-esteem.
Marano takes it a step further: She claims that nothing less than the survival of democracy and, indeed, all of humanity is at stake. Marano, the former editor of Psychology Today, lays out cogent arguments. Chapter 7, "Crisis on the Campus," shows that our country is churning out a well-credentialed generation of people who can't - and often don't want to - think for themselves. There isn't a meeting of college presidents where the subject of student mental health doesn't come up. Afraid to take risks, afraid to fail, these students don't know who they are. Extensions of their parents?
Trophies for their parents? They don't even know how to separate long enough to figure it out. The book is a scathing commentary on contemporary parenting, particularly the parenting of the affluent. She predicts the children of the current generation who will be most successful are those with immigrant parents, because these parents could not run interference. When she rails about how children and their accoutrements and accomplishments provide parents with status, she is harsh and unforgiving.
Here's an example of her comments about micro-managing parents, from Chapter 3, "We're All Jewish Mothers Now": "The desire of parents for a wholly sanitized environment for their kids, totally free of uncertainty, couldn't be clearer than in the rash of new hand-cleansing agents intended for children to take with them to school. It reflects a dream of total control over the child's safety and, consequently, development, a kind of parental panopticon in which children are under the constant gaze, literally and metaphorically, of adults. Among teens, the means change but the principle stays the same; nanny cams give way to Internet activity monitors and cellphones with GPS monitors.